Thursday, April 15, 2010

Divorce and Separation – What it means to kids

In their early life, children are completely dependent on their parents and in most of the cases they share a deep emotional bonding with them. The separation of their parents would mean that they would miss the company of one of their parents which they have been enjoying over the years. This leads to the development of a feeling of insecurity in them about their future as a whole.

In many cases,
parental divorces are not calm procedures and may involve squabbles and heated exchanges. In such situations, children usually tend to blame themselves for the current situation that he or she gets to see around.

A divorce usually means the failure of an institution called marriage and subsequently a relationship that was meant for life. When a child witnesses such breaks in relationship, he usually tends to lose credibility in human relationships and the society as a whole.

Due to divorce, children may be expected to move to a different environment from the one in which they have been living so far. For them, this could mean losing some of their best friends.

As often, the children are not consulted during the divorce of their parents; children tend to start feeling less important as an individual. They start becoming silent spectators and a passive witness to the whole drama called divorce.

Effects of Parental Divorce on Children

Divorce of parents can affect the emotional stability and development of a child. The effect of divorce may be varied depending on the child’s age, gender, extent of maturity, the type of support he has received so far etc. Usually, girls can handle parent divorce better than boys. Let us have a look at some of the effects of divorce on children:

One of the common effects of parental divorce on children is that they begin to believe that they are responsible for the divorce of their parents. This affects them emotionally to a great extent and if, they do not receive timely support, their emotional development may be stunted.

Divorce means separation of the child from either one or both of his parents. This may lead to a feeling of alienation in the child and may also cause the child to become socially inactive. Thus, the child may not feel inclined to mix with other children and may become introverted.

Also, the child may be afraid to voice his opinions to his parents as he believes that he was responsible for the divorce.

Many times, the children are not consulted when their parents are getting divorced. This may add to the child’s feeling of alienation.

It has been observed that individuals whose parents have divorced in their childhood tend to be more violent and have a tendency to be rebellious in nature. This is not necessarily true for all children who have faced parental divorce but has been observed in many of the cases.

Individuals who have faced parental divorce in their childhood have greater likelihood of drug abuse, alcoholism etc.

They may also have a tendency of taking impulsive decisions later in their life and being impatient in nature.

The concept of divorce is too big an idea for children to digest. This may have a negative impact on their academics

As the children tend to turn more independent during and after parental divorce due to lack of trust in others, it is likely that they will not enter successful marital or platonic relationships later in their lives.

Some of the children may fall prey to psychological disorders and may show poor physical health as well.

What can be done to Avoid Problems Faced by Children during Parental Divorce?

It has been studied over time that divorce leads to child delinquency if not handled properly. Parents should try and give enough support to the child during and after divorce. It proves to be helpful if the child stays in contact with both his parents even after the divorce. The parents should also avoid arguing and abusing each other in front of the child.

9 comments: said...

ouh tuhan !
baca blog kak dira, baca blog abg ash.

tak berkesuddahan lagi ke ?

pape pun , semoga tabah dan sabar menjalani hidup .

kuatkan semangat dan pikir yang terbaik untuk anggun .

aj said...

abg ash,i'm shocked bout this...both of u realy sweet couple..think twice ok..for anggun sake.she wont b able to grow up without her loving daddy..and for sis dira.its hard u know to raise kid alone.

dont blame early marriage.still have time to recorrect the past.i just pray for ur happiness.bersatu la..demi tengku anggun deandra :(

empty_silent said...

oh no..u n dira are a very sweet couple.. think bout anggun..she needs both of u..

baluke said...

hurmm...aku pon sedeh biler bace blog nie...hope korang tak gadaikan mase depan anggun kerana masalah antra korang...

kuat semangat sikit bro

jumapx said...

i want to dedicate this to you...
& i hope u like it...

Berakhirlah sudah
ceritera cinta
antara kau dan aku
beginikah akhirnya
drama cinta yang kita lakonkan bersama

ini bukan pengakhir bahagia
tapi derita
yang membuat kita terluka

adakah peluang kedua
sambungan cerita
agar episod drama ini
tidak berakhir begini

aku mahu yang terbaik
bukan pengakhir yang klise
mestikah perpisahan menjadi jawapan?

aku mahu bahagia
kau dan aku
terus bersama
hingga ke akhirnya....

i hope u can compose a new songs with this lyric...& if u want to edit this lyric...boleh je...menambah baikkan lagi...k...

i hope u can face all this stuff of problems...dgn baik...

mungkin ada himah di sebalik semuanya...k


KampungChelsea said...

Salam ziarah,hai,minat bola tak ? jom visit n join blog bola versi piala dunia ni ,ok thanks n bye

Anonymous said...

hye.. been reading u from afar. understand what u've been thru coz i've been thru it myself. glad both of u find a way out. for us we're stuck. btw, whatever u did never ever forget that u've loved her once and anggun needs u. hope u'll find happiness along the way. gudluck! -iman-

Eyka_Diraaddict said...

senang cakap macam iklan Celcom tuh...Kawin Jelah...!!!!! heheheh....just from my opinion ler...!!!! <3

syaa said...

untuk Ash n dira

Firman - Kehilangan

Ku coba ungkap tabir ini
Kisah antara kau dan aku
Terpisahkan oleh ruang dan waktu
Menyudutkanmu meninggalkanku

Ku merasa telah kehilangan
Cintamu yang tlah lama hilang
Kau pergi jauh karena salahku
Yang tak pernah menganggap kamu ada

Asmara memisahkan kita
Mengingatkanku pada dirimu
Gelora mengingatkanku
Bahwa cintamu telah merasuk jantungku

Sejujurnya ku tak bisa
Hidup tanpa ada kamu aku gila
Seandainya kamu bisa
Mengulang kembali lagi cinta kita

Takkan kusia-siakan kamu lagi

p/s: cuba dengar